Thank you Letter To Single Parents.

Today we discover that being a single parent is not defined by being a woman there are a number of men who also carry the title, only in a few cases do some consciously decide to be single parents, in the majority of cases, those who acquire the title, of single-parent, do not acquire the title by choice, life circumstances play a huge role in what leads many to become single parents.

The tile single parent is placed upon one in various circumstances, maybe the man decided he was not going to accept the child DNA test or not, maybe the young lady has no idea who the father is, maybe one partner is in prison, maybe one partner has passed away, maybe an individual decides to use a surrogate with intentions of bringing up a child on their own, or a more devastating reason might be one partner has a mental illness that does not allow him or her to be present in the lives of their child or children. Whatever the case might be, being a single parent should not be a stigma or something to be ashamed of.

Many who find themselves, single parents, sometimes of no fault of their own, develop strength and determination to pick themselves up and survive the best they can, they realize as hard as it may seem, this is no time for a pity party, this is no time to break down and crumble, a roof, education amongst other provisions has to be provided for the children in their care, innocent mouths need to be feed, for theses brave mothers and fathers survival is the name of the game.

Single mums and dads, I believe realize that their actions could affect their children for the rest of the lives of the children in their care, and so there is a conscious effort on the part of theses single parents, to do all they do with dignity and integrity, knowing their children are observing them, it is said we learn from what we see not necessarily what we hear, in other words, actions speak louder than words. I believe single parents who must now take up two roles, are more aware of this fact. I believe many single parents show their children that failure is an experience like any other experience, so one should not be afraid to fail. I believe indirectly single parents teach their children that the only thing that can hold one back is fear.

Being a child of a single parent does not mean you have no ambition, it does not mean you are not interested in acquiring your education or doing well in life, it does not mean you are in and out of problems, it does not mean you are more likely to join a gang, it does not mean you end up in prison because you were brought up by a single parent, your environment does not and should not determine who you become simply because you were brought up in a single-parent home.

Children from single-parent homes, in my opinion, have been known to excel in academics and many aspects of life. In my opinion, they become focused and independent early in life, many turn out to be better behaved and show a higher degree of compassion, empathy, tolerance, kindness, sympathy, understanding, and forgiveness towards others.

Single mums and dads this is the time to get to know your children, the child who is the diplomat amongst the other children, the child who negotiates to make sure everyone has an equal say. The child who is always quiet reading a book or solving a puzzle. The child who is always as cool as a cucumber, he or she feels the world will wait for them so what's the hurry. Children with so many fascinating personalities.

Single mums, and dads this is a time to shower your children with love and create lasting loving memories, like the time you taught them to ride their first bikes or the time you all baked cookies and cakes and baking flour was on faces and all over the place, or the time when you all decided to wash the family car and you all ended up practically with more water on yourselves than on the car you were washing, the time you took them to the beach for the first time. Single parents, create memories of joy and laughter in your home, let laughter ring out in the air from everyone, and so much more precious memories that you can all experience in a single-family household. For those who find themselves in a situation where children go from one residence to the other, stop feeling guilty, realize that it's better for your children to have two happy homes than one miserable home. The memories you create with your children are priceless.

To all the single parents wherever you are in the world, thank you for doing all you are doing to make sure your children are loved, thank you for your sacrifice, your devotion to making sure your children are getting the best life you can provide for them. Hold your heads up high and keep on marching on, knowing that God has your back. God has promised to supply all your needs, God will never leave you, as long as you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you will be alright, joy will come in the morning. Someday it will all be worth it as you see your child your children become the best versions of themselves, participating and contributing to make the world a better place for people in their communities and around the world, and making you the proudest single mum or dad on the planet.

To everyone who gives encouragement, love, and support to single parents on their journey to make life better for themselves and their children I say thank you.

Much love

Abi